It's been 10 years this summer since Matthew and I split. Well, at first we split and tried to work on things some more, but a few months into that and I knew I wasn't willing to try any longer.  He always told me, having been through it himself as a kid, "Divorce is the gift that keeps on giving"...and, I've learned that. My parents are divorced too, but I didn't grow up that way. It's different when you grow up with it. It's also different--just in general--each situation, of course. Timing, age of children, reasons for it, logistics, conflict context and style... In my naivete I didn't really understand what he meant by that, "Divorce is the gift that keeps on giving" idea. I just wanted out.  There are a lot of things I would've done differently, in hindsight. I've learned so much in the last 10 years. I mean, I would HOPE so! Shouldn't that always be the case, anyway? But, you know how you look back on when you were young...